1. A great sex life is about one thing and one thing only: a decision. There are so many reasons to not have great sex, and I know you know all of those. Instead, make a list of 10 reasons to have a sensual encounter with your husband.
—Mama Gena's Marriage Manual: Stop Being a Good Wife, Start Being a Sister Goddess! by Regena Thomashauer
2. Read trashy novels aloud. It's a great way to skip dinner and a movie and move right into intimacy. It can bring a playful spirit of romance back into your relationship, and it allows you to live out the fantasy, minus the costume, with a sense of humor. The more melodramatic, the better! As the heroine rips her dress off, you can yank off your sweatshirt for effect.
—Eat Chocolate Naked: and 142 Other Ways to Attract Attention and Spark Romance! by Cam Johnson
3. Make one true connection a day. For example, maybe you kiss your husband good-bye every morning. Slow it down. Maintain eye contact. I'm just talking about maybe 45 seconds here. It can't be perfunctory; you have to feel you've deliberately done something to create a little bubble in time and for a moment float away in it.
—The Weekend Marriage: Abundant Love in a Time-Starved World by Mira Kirshenbaum
4. The sexiest look on earth: jewelry...and nothing else.
—The Great American Sex Diet by Laura Corn
5. Frankly, the missionary position is the position least likely to bring a woman to climax. But there is a subtle adjustment you can make that can increase your chances of having an orgasm: the coital alignment technique, or CAT. Have your partner move his entire body up about two inches. Your partner's pubic bone will rest on top of yours so that the base of his penis presses on your clitoris. This position provides continuous stimulation of your clitoris during intercourse, increasing your chances of having an orgasm.
—Sexual Pleasure: Reaching New Heights of Sexual Arousal & Intimacy by Barbara Keesling, Ph.D.
6. Foreplay is about sparking the imagination, creating a sense of anticipation. So help your guy take foreplay out of the bedroom. Give him a "lingerie assignment": Call him up in the middle of the day and tell him to come home with the accoutrements of his choice. By the time he completes his mission, he'll be begging for the sequel.
—He Comes Next by Ian Kerner, Ph.D. (he's also the author of She Comes First)
7. Women tend to separate their lives — when they are being mothers, they are just mothers; when they are working, they are just at work. Stop compartmentalizing and try thinking about sex more often. When you are walking down the street and see an attractive man, try to think about it for a split second. Be aware of the different sensations in your genitals when you are watching that next romantic movie. For the next month, concentrate on what you find erotic about your partner. Look for small things, like the curve of a neck, his hair, a smile, a particular look, etc. Incorporating sex into your life doesn't mean incorporating the sexual act into your life 24 hours a day — it means incorporating a sense of sexuality into your life and opening your mind to the sexual energy that's around you.
—Secrets of the Sexually Satisfied Woman: Ten Keys to Unlocking Ultimate Pleasure by Jennifer Berman, M.D., and Laura Berman, Ph.D.
8. A man's frenulum is the quarter-size area on the underside of his penis. Stimulating this spot will elicit tremendous, intense sensations. So ladies, when you happen to be hovering in the general vicinity, remember to pay attention to this sensational area of his anatomy.
—The Great Lover Playbook: 365 Sexual Tips and Techniques to Keep the Fires Burning All Year Long by Lou Paget
9. The reason strippers are comfortable with their bodies is that they spend 40 hours a week naked. The more time you can spend naked, then, the more comfortable you will feel with your body. Pick a chore you do around the house — washing the breakfast dishes after you pack the kids off to school, putting in a load of laundry or filing old bills — then do it naked. It may seem ridiculous, but it will increase your comfort level with your own body in a way that agonizing and analyzing never will.
—Dance Naked: A Guide to Unleashing Your Inner Hottie by Jessica "Kayla" Conrad
10. To have multiple orgasms, keep breathing as you feel yourself reaching your peak. Do you tend to hold your breath? Most of us do. To have a second orgasm, breathe through the first; your body can stay aroused, keeping blood in the genitals rather than rushing it up to your oxygen-deprived brain.
—The Best You'll Ever Have: What Every Woman Should Know About Getting and Giving Knock-Your-Socks-Off Sex by Shannon Mullen and Valerie Frankel
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